Recently in a psychology course I discovered about the diverse ways different teenagers behave with their parents. I just could hold myself to share some insights with you!
According to ayurvedic psychology, agni – the coordinating centre of our thoughts – transforms a sensory experience into understanding and controls the way a person behaves. Based on the intensity and different modes of agni, there are three prakruties. Prakruti describes an individual’s physical, psychological and physiological expression. The three types of prakruties include: Kapha prakruti, Vata prakruti and Pita Prakruti.
Generally, adolesents in Kapha Prakruti are obedient than vata and pitta prakruti childrena are, they are calm and composed and obey their parents without much argument, these are parents’ favourite children and a pleasure to be around.
The ones with Vata prakruti are restless; they are master of their ownself and feel that every suggestion of their parents is against. The disobey their parents the most, study suggests that due to their reluctant nature, they get angry very easily and fail to handle pressure.
Pitta prakruti teens, listen to their parents and then choose to obey the parents for only certain tasks which they think are in their favour. They get angry and impatient if any decision is taken or they are ordered to do anything that is ambiguous to their desire.
Teenagers these days -so called “The GenZs”- have started to feel as if following whatever they feel is good for them, not thinking if the direction chosen is pragmatic, not considering animity from their parents and elders seems cool and more reliable. Lo! What happens next, was never nebulous, they fail to each the goal and further suffer from lament and conditions like depression. The above discussed, were just the psychological catagorisiation of how different children react to obeying their elders, this does not remain constant, the child is mature enough tounderstand the rights and wongs and the need to obeys elders and parents to be successful. As the child understands and tries to change oneself, the psychological aspects themselves change.
Parents should also try to understand the psychology of their child and then try to lighten up their suggestions accordingly. They should try to make the childaware of rights and wrongs and shouldn’t pilot them all the time. A healthy relationship should be maintained between parents and children so that there is a safe space for the child to discuss all kind of teen problems and other issues with the parents and should obey them as they say because
“Parents are afterall the only ones on the Earth who would never want their child to be in trouble.”
